....cos kids are awesome !!

Yes but at some point I want to talk about something else. People who used to have interesting opinions are now just consumed with the latest 'cute' thing little Wyatt did.

I guess I haven't experienced this particular problem. My friends still talk about other things. Maybe it's because they're all infants, so there isn't much content yet.

I have no children myself, but I think when someone has kids, if they're a good parent, their kids become pretty important to them. It's quite natural to talk about things that are important to you, no?

I agree that sometimes it is boring for non-parents... although sometimes children say funny things. Either way, Putin - give your friends some slack. They're talking about their children because their children are a very important part of their life.

Nothing should consume your life. People without kids who only talk about one thing bore me too.

Some people get obsessed by their kids ..... it fills the gaps they have in their own lives so in the end the parents become defined by the quality (or not) of their children, then it becomes a bit sad

I actually haven't had this problem at all, unless you count facebook feeds.

(Well, and one friend who's not available at all anymore. I don't know whether he'd only talk about his kids; he's never available to talk to because he only spends time with them. He works a lot, though, so I can respect that).

Putin please don't reproduce

Kids are the first and most important thing in their parents lives. I finally found someone that I would take a bullet for.

Had to fit that in before answering the question, didn't ya...

my child is a doctor lawyer.....beat that

A doctor lawyer?v????

jealous? XD

Not only are kids the most important things in their parents' lives, but they also take up most of their parents' time, so naturally the topic shifts to the thing that takes up most of their time and energy.

Then it's unavoidable? If you have a child you're destined to be boring? How sad.

It's a large part of their lives and they transmit it into all parts of their life. It is hard for them but as usual respect is important when dealing with parents. Also being able to speed walk, map out effective routes around them and eye signals with other childrenless coworkers

Putin you're single aren't you

In large part, Putin, yes, having a child takes away other parts of the typical life that you might consider interesting. Some people are ready to live that way, some aren't, and others think they are and end up wanting their old lives back, which typically results in terrible parents.

Putin is an asexual anmoloy

Just shout, "BORING" every time they talk about their kid. Subtle hints like this seem to work.

Putin - Firstly, unless you have a kid of your own, no one could ever explain that feeling. So, your question is sorta moot. Unfortunately, you'll never really get it...no big deal, you just won't.

Why do they talk about them so much? Because having a child is life-changing. You can go through life and love other people...your mom, your dad, your brother, your sister, friends, your wife...etc. But creating your own child? that is something else entirely. Love for a child is all consuming and very much unconditional. It's indescribable.

I don't know this, but I can only imagine that losing a child has got to be the worst pain in the world. I would not wish this on anyone. I'd rather die a thousand deaths than lose mine.

I hope this makes it clearer, though I wouldn't expect you to understand.

No, I'm married. Do all couples have to spawn? If I don't guffaw at inside jokes about obscure cartoons, bowel movements, and food accidents am I less of a person?

Not necessarily, putin. Some people find talk about kids interesting, so you're only destined to be boring to people who never want to hear about kids.

Not all parents 'create' their own child.

Haha, some of this sounds awfully specific.

I'm probably a little young for this since MOST people my age aren't having kids just yet (give 'em a few years though...), but in my experience those who incessantly post about their kids on FB and talk about their kids when we're hanging out were already on the boring side of things anyway. It's just easier to notice when their attention gets focused on one subject instead of multiple.

Personally, I just try to be happy for their newfound passion for something. It's important to have a deep-seated interest in something, and what better than raising a kid? I would much rather the dull-but-devoted parent over the litany of mothers and fathers who neglect their responsibilities as parents to go try to live it up as though they're still single, childless and uncommitted. Say what we will about the ones who get obsessed with their kids - and there are things to say - but at least those kids are much less likely to be raised in a broken home, which is an all-too-real danger these days.

That's a good point, Eden, unless the thousands of fb pictures of their kid completely supplant any and all with their spouse. Modern marriage requires time and attention too.

The truth is they talk about their kids because that's what occupies their time. All of the other things in life (movies, shows, activities, sports, hobbies - etc) have either gone to the wayside or has been greatly reduced.

I can tell you from personal experience (kids 7, 5, 4) that it's really difficult to do anything. Thus the hiatus from webdip for 4 yrs, amongst other things. Now they are getting older, I've been able to slowly bring back the items that were sacrificed.

They don't mean to only talk about the kids, but they just want to talk. Talk about anything, and that's the first thing that comes to mind.

Don't give up on them; keep them anchored to life so after a few years they won't feel lost. I'm now catching up on the 'new movies' I wanted to see back then... via Netflix.

It's well worth it though.

I talk about my kids from time to time on here. Mostly when the oldest (3.5) had said something ridiculous that made me laugh, not when she's being mean and say things like "No, daddy. I'm not talking to you right now. Go away." :(

Some of us do try to have conversations other than just about kids. My wife and I talk with each other about science, NPR, research, how bad the math was in that stupid Numbers show, what yummy food to eat on the weekend, sometimes webdip (when I sense she's patient), and so forth. I don't do facebook and put pictures of my kids on there. Couldn't care less about what strangers or old acquaintances think.

I think the thing to do though is to try to get your friends with kids to talk about interesting things, but if that's all they want to talk about because that's important to them at the moment, don't judge them for it. Find other friends if none of them are interesting anymore.

"No, daddy. I'm not talking to you right now. Go away."

Man, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, does it?





JUST KIDDING, zultar.

Let's just hope you were dude otherwise uh...

Your poking the sleeping grizzly with a stick bro. Its not going to end well.

Kids are kids adults can be amazed or disappointed by what they do and how they behave around them or other people. We were all kids once.

@THELEGION, it's fine. I didn't think what semck said was funny, but he apparently did, which was why he said it I suppose. I'm not going to "retaliate" or anything of the kind. We are not that kinda site.

Anyway, shouldn't you be doing your youtube group channel thing? :)

And in any event, I really wouldn't want to be a bear, grizzly or not. They are kinda boring.
I would rather be those leaf-cutter ants that built tunnels and grow fungi on grass by killing off all other bacteria with their spit. Those damn things are awesome.

Kids are not for everyone. I wish more people understood this before undertaking the Long arduous journey. It is taxing to the extreme and the most rewarding thing you could possibly imagine. Someone earlier in this thread had said you can't imagine what child rearing is if you have not done it, how true. It tests everything that you and your partner have and then as it starts to come to a close, you still have to remember why you and your partner got together in the first place(that's hard) ...

Yeah I understand sir Its just lol I was being chased by 5 grizzlies in red dead redemption earlier so. Our tech guy may post a few videos before he goes on his trip our other tech guy is having some problems and they are very close friends so he wanted to visit with him they are like brothers. My friend and I, commander chocco or Moo the last member of our group have been friends since we were in 1st grade so I consider him as a brother too.

@putin: "Nothing should consume your life."

Um, putin, how should I put this . . .

dirge, dont bother

There's a cool leaf-cutter ant display at the Insectarium in New Orleans.

To add what the other said, raising kids is HARD. I don't do the FB pics and whatever, and I don't talk about bowel movements. I do like to share with other parents how they raise their kids, to be able to improve my own parenting. When to intervene in my kids' brawl and when to let them? When to help my kids and when to let them do it on their own? Where to draw the line on sugar, TV or other of life's vices? Parenting is a horribly delicate skill and sharing with others is the way to honing.

That said, I rarely talk about my kids to people without kids. I agree it makes for boring conversation, and I never get anything out of it myself either in terms of improving parenting.

Kids are different than pets. You need to feed them at least every day, sometimes more than once a day.

wow 2wl you starve your pets......CALL P.E.T.A

Why are you mad, putty baby?

We all really know discussions about our kids aren't as interesting to everybody as they are to us and i think guys tend to be a little more understanding about that fact then moms are, but for us to completely avoid discussing them is just impossible. Kids take a lot of our attention so that's just our source of the "what's going on with us" and "that funny thing that happened yesterday" part of the conversation. We do our best to try to dude it up when we talk about it, bare with us a little.