"Spanking is not "hitting"...if you don't get that, there is no point in discussing."
...I...really DON'T get that, I just can't wrap my mind around it...
You can produce pleasure via contact with someone, sure, but why spank/hit them, and put them in what would seem to be in most contexts a sort of dominated position? That seems cruel...
If they WANT to be dominated, well, to each their own, what goes on in the bedroom is everyone's own business so long as no one get's hurt...but it just seems so mean and degrading.
Granted I speak from absolutely no experience whatsoever (and likely to remain that way...really, with my love of long books, sexual inactivity and love to hear myself talk, it's almost a shame I'm not religious, I could've made good money as an evangelist or preacher or something...a very bad one, I'm sure, but still) but that just seems such a terrible position to put someone in...
In what context is it a good thing to dominate someone, anyway? Isn't the whole point supposed to be a sort of mutual coming together game with orgasms and babies as the end prize, like it or not? Again, I don't at all doubt that people like being dominated...hell, D.H. Lawrence has that in his novels...
And as much as I love his novels and respect his views on sex, I still can't shake the feeling that it's just a terrible, cruel position to put someone in. *shrug*
And if that's the theory...why women being spanked over men? Is there an actual physiological reason for that, or is that just a social construct (and I wish everything was rational, Jasbrum--sir or madame, whichever--and Major...or at least that I could find some rationality behind all that...or a way back to talking about something I know about, books by dead white people vs. something I can't even begin to conceive of without suffering a total systems failure...) ;)