"There are other kinds of privilege. You are privileged if you speak English, especially if you grew up speaking it. You are privileged if you are able-bodied, healthy, or young. Etc.
But race, class, and sex and sexual orientation are the most prominent."
Well, I can tell you that without light there is no concept of darkness so where does that leave us? No one can have anything positive or "privileged" if someone else doesn't get the short end of the stick or in your case the "perceived" short end of the stick correct?
Thucy, what you stated sounds great and all but in the end it is just a social construct, it is not a universal truth. If I believe that the meek shall inherit the earth, am I privileged to to be born poor? If I believe in redemptive suffering, am I privileged because I was born with a debilitating disease? Where is the measuring line, where is the base point, the yard stick used to measure privilege? The meme in America is the white male is grandly privileged, is it not? Isn't that true only based on circumstances, some (not all I will grant you) that can be changed or that can shift? Obviously race and sex (well not 100% true with this transgendered nonsense and modern medicine) are the only two immutable characteristics. Class certainly can wax and wane and the others are all relative.
I identify as American, I am half white and half Filipino. I am Asian to most people based on my outward immutable characteristic. Does this bother me? No. Do I wish I was born 100% "white" like my father? Of course not. Does my mother? Of course not. Do some people in her family wish my father was Filipino, of course some do. So those relatives are missing the "privilege" message aren't they? Shouldn't I tell them next family get together that any value they put on their ethnic ties is not out of sheer prejudice (the common meme or social construct that I assume you would believe) but of out of ignorance as to what "privilege" is. Or should they not have wanted their niece or granddaughter to "gain" some privilege by marrying my white American father?
Are Cinderella stories wrong, marrying for privilege? What about competition to achieve status or necessary means to raise your station, is that wrong?
I know someone intimately who struggled with very similar questions and in the end their fixation on suffering, on injustice, on privilege, on man's inhumanity to man, led to their death. Did they make a difference before they passed? Surely. But I wonder was it enough to justify losing them? In the end I would rather have them be here as a middle class pharmacist enjoying any privilege others judged them to have rather than to be some dead heroic figure only to themselves or a few others. I know that is me being selfish and I am fine with that. If I couldn't make sense of it all to myself, I would have lost it all.
Don't twist yourself up. It sounds like there is some deep pain involved in you somewhere right now that has long gone unaddressed. Go out and do simple and good things. You don't do good because you are privileged, because you are privileged you can do much good. Think of any privilege you believe you have as a force multiplier and use it as a tool. The age old hero's question, why me?