you,re not the only person in the world ursa tough crap. no need to be concerned crazy, just give your kids that 'old timr religion, and god will steer em straight.

"no need to be concerned crazy, just give your kids that 'old timr religion, and god will steer em straight."

I intend to and I'm sure of it. I do, however, see that it's my role as a parent to protect my kids to the best of my ability. You did dodge the queston though. Do you agree that a parent should not be concerned about sexting, internet porn, and internet predators? Are they merely indicators that society is becoming "more sexual" and therefore not a big issue?

Let's make an attempt to tie this back into the original question. Mothers are women. This is certainly an issue that would affect some of them.

Do we have any mothers on here? I know djbent is a godmother, but she doesn't comment on the arguments here on the forum:[

CA - (because you requested it) You can't just hide your kids from real life, at some point they will discover sexting and porn and all the wonderful yet dangerous things the world has to offer. Wouldn't you rather your kids learned about it from you or another responsible adult instead of experiencing the dangers on their own with no preparation from you? You have to prepare your kids for real life, and keeping them sheltered from things that you disagree with only works for so long. Now, I have no idea how old your kids are, and if they're in elementary school, by all means, shield them. But if you have kids who are in middle school or just entering high school, they WILL encounter things of that nature in school, so its best they be prepared before they get there.

I'm a 16 year old guy though, so I won't be offended if you think my advice is crap:]

@ Ursa Just because a woman likes it does not mean she feels she's being dominated. If she is asking for it she is in control, and there may be reasons other than *to be dominated* why a woman may like it. Also Ursa is female superman villain

Hi vamm,

No I see your point. I'm not one to dismiss advice given off handedly.

"Wouldn't you rather your kids learned about it from you or another responsible adult instead of experiencing the dangers on their own with no preparation from you?"

I'd say that's exactly what I want for my kids (and yes they are quite young). Again my concern isn't that porn exists, but that it is so readily available that kids can stumble onto it by accident. I certainly plan to ready them for the world and I'm not shielding them in an attempt to keep them from forming their own opinions. It's simply that there are certain aspects of adult behavior that a ten or twelve year old child really has neither the need nor the maturity to handle yet. It is a little weird though that alcohol and cigarettes are kept from people under the age of sixteen in most cases (at least in the USA), but porn is piped in and readily available to the point that a kid can stumble onto it. In essence, I can easily keep cigarettes out of my house and (for the most part limit my kids' access to them), but to suggest that I'd like to do the same with porn I'm somehow trying to impose my values on others and shield my kids from the real world? I do not suggest that porn be made unavailable to any adult who wants to get it, but it there is no need that it be made available to any kid who clicks the wrong site.

@ Crazy FYI Cigs is age 18 and alcohol age 21 in all states due to Federal arm twisting of the states.

Thanks, I don't smoke so I wasn't aware of the law for cigarettes.

CA - if your kids are in fact young, then as I said, shield away. I'm with you that preteens have no need to be given a talk about porn, but realize that you should probably talk to them sooner rather than later. My parents NEVER gave me a talk about it other than a passing remark about it being degrading to women, which I took as crap because it's a job that you do because you want to, but that's off topic.

I agree with you that kids need to be shielded to a point, but we're kids, we are curious little bastards, and we will find a way to discover things and get ourselves into trouble despite your and anyone else's best efforts to prevent it. The trick is to realize when your kid is progressing from innocent childhood curiosity into young adulthood, and to know when to stop shielding them so much so that they can handle new things in a mature way. Obviously that's very easy for me to say, but nearly impossible to do exactly right, but I hope you get my point about there coming a time where you have to talk to your kids about adult things, be it porn or cigs or whatever, before they discover them for themselves and regard whatever things you say about them as crap. Kids believe their parents if the parents are the first people they hear something from, but once your kid discovers porn or cigs for himself, its extremely unlikely that he will take your word about it over his friends word, because his friends have just as much influence on his opinions as you do, provided he gets in his opinion first.

Again, my 16 year old opinion, so maybe I got that completely wrong, but thats my thoughts on it, and I'm only a few years out of the transition from being a little kid to a young adult, so I'd like to think I have a basic understanding of what its like:]