factually, if you don't have confidence in whatever it is you're doing it seems much less attractive. No matter how 'nerdy' you think other people might think of it, especially if it is something which they don't actually know anything about...

peterwiggin those were two different statements you need to view and judge independently.
let me make it more clear.
1. maximum 1% of the webdiplomacy.net users are girls.
2. maximum 1% of the girls in general are playing diplomacy (live or through net)
3. suppose you meet a girl and you want to score with her your chances being n%
a. 99% that girl doesn't play diplomacy so, if you reveal you play, your chances drop to 0,01n%
b (NEW) the girl actually plays diplomacy. Your chances are now 10n%.

@hellalt, what kind of craziness world do you live in where only those who also play dip can breed?

You're going to get some crazy speciation effects in a short few generations... i'm just hoping some people can bring new genes into the pool...

I would say of the 99% of girls who don't play Diplomacy, about 98% don't even know what it is. And that 98%, if they're interested, would probably enjoy a brief conversation about it and then make a judgment based on that. Because half of dating is listening to the other person's inane conversations about themselves.

I'm sorry, I meant to say "finding out about each other so that you may share every bit of your being." But either way, it's not like it's Dungeons and Dragons (which, even still, I've rarely gotten wholly negative reactions to) where it's popularly known as ZOMG nerdy.

"@hellalt, what kind of craziness world do you live in where only those who also play dip can breed?"

The kind I want to live in.

My wife, interestingly enough, says that she has no desire to play Diplomacy...because it would result in her getting really pissed off and running and gunning at the first person that betrayed her, even at the expense of winning.

I said that's a pretty well-regarded strategy.