talk about it once the game is overr

Samaritans 0800 184 3726 - maybe they will empathise with you, it can't be easy :-)

@BJ - Go ahead and chat, but don't mention the name of the player, the specifics of the situation, or anything that would allow us to identify the game or the players involved. In short, no details that make the game (if it is active) identifiable. Naming names is no problem provided you aren't making it a cheating accusation and they can't be used to determine the game, which it just sounds like you want to bitch, not accuse anyone of anything.

Given the fact that you are in 2 different games (1 Anon & 1 non-anon gunboat) and the types of these games, any additional info (as well as the info already given by you) allows others to suspect you playing in a certain game. Going into more details than you did thus far will allow people to easily single you out in your anon game. Even without those details you may open a new topic and ask the people in here what they describe as "a lunatic [way] or [a] bad way to communicate" (or whatever other property of that player is terrible).