however, if you are jumping from peer group to peer group, it seems like a high risk high reward strategy is in order, so maybe thinking differently in that case is good. because even if most are fails, you will not have to live with the bad reputation, and remember only the wins.

Are you seriously asking how to be a douchebag and still have everyone like you? What a loser.

Rereading your spam it actually looks like you want to know how to be a douchebag and have a fraction of the people you interact with like you and be content with that. Even bigger loser.

it is kind of a confusing topic. i used the term douchebag but it could be anything that is socially questionable. for example, reading a facebook friends posting about the wonders of chinese communism. and then railing on the stupidity of it. some would call this douchebaggery.

perhaps it is a matter of not caring about others emotional reactions to things and just acting how i want. that is the douchebaggery i wish to exhibit.

or is it the douchebaggery that i already exhibit? you be the judge.

but i can tell you i either have a problem with constantly getting bad reputations in any peer group i am in for a few months... or that i just cannot express my inner douche. i think my fans can guess which of the two is my problem.

then again is it a problem? existential questions like this plague me. although if i did bend over as the rest of society seems to i would be more successful.

i know i have problems managing people because the number one prereq of people management is to have absolutely no principles and just fake everything. and do everything you can to have a good reputation.

You write in this manner because you are lonely. Possible?

not... really.

but all aspects of my life could be more successful if i conformed, it seems.

i think the issue is more... maybe failing to take advantage of potential, and missing out on what i want because of rigid principles.

it is hard to tell the difference between something i choose to do versus something i am kind of forced to do out of who i am.

it seems to me that if i truly wanted to conform i would. so if i truly really wanted to make many friends and really needed to be successful then i would conform whenever the situation called for it.

but i have not really thought about it throughout my life. i just lived as i am. i did not do everything possible to be the most successful. because i did not really care. principles seemed more important at the time. it is hard to say at this point what the right thing to do is.

my mind has a place for friendship and a place for success. and those are separated. but the true used car salesmen (aka managers) do not have this divide, they do not consider anyone friends. they always fake everything. they are always thinking of how to act to maximize their success. and maybe as they do it it becomes second nature. it becomes less of an act and more just that they will naturally tell people what they want to hear..... anyway something to think about.

Hey blankflag.

I'm a nonconformist, and most people like me just fine.

Know why?

Because I'm not an idiot.

Your trend towards "nonconformity" if that's what you want to call it has very little to do with why you are despised. It's because you say and do things that are absurd and then you still expect to be taken seriously.

#blankflagistherealkingatom

Do you really need people to like you?
why?
Most successful personalities are not so popular .

taos, the exact opposite is true.

if this thread was about the game of diplomacy I would understand it. You have to be a douchebag to be successful but you have to be strategic about it. (not that I know anything about winning)

But he seems to be talking about life.

Ask John Edwards.

for fuck's sake, he really DOES sound like king atom.

ugh

You refer to your "principles," blankflag, but the thing is, even if you have principles, it's unlikely that you have to talk about them all the time. Sometimes it's possible to come across as so obsessed with one subject that you're just a bore to other people, and they don't want to be around you, because, even if you might be fun if you would shut up about it, you won't.

This is a mistake. If the government is really trying to control all our lives down to minute details, and deceiving us a lot (for example), that is absolutely something we should talk about and try to do something about; but it's still not something we should talk about to the exclusion of everything else -- only when it's going to be productive. When you go to a friend's party, for example, you're probably not going to achieve anything productive about the situation by talking about it, whereas you _could_ have a good time with your friends, so that is probably a good time and place to just do the latter. But some people don't. The irony is that the whole reason to worry about the government being oppressive is that it would prevent people from being able to pursue the things they want and value in life; but a lot of people worry so much about the government's oncoming oppression that they voluntarily stop pursuing those things of their own accord.

I'm not saying that's necessarily your problem. I don't know you in real life, so I can't say. But I've known people a little like that, and I could *imagine* it being your problem; and anyway it analogizes, somewhat, to other things. The point, again, is not to stop acting about the things that trouble you, but to understand which of your actions might have a good impact, and which are just costing you personally without achieving a thing.