I didn't say doctors were ordering it, Putin. I said that doctors are required to inform their patients before performing medical procedures unless they absolutely cannot due to extenuating emergency circumstances (which aren't going to happen in the case of pre-abortion procedures like these).
And no, it is not fallacious to say that since there is, indeed, complete, absolute and unhindered choice to consent or not to consent to an abortion and any pre-abortion procedures such as this ultrasound probe, that a patient who seeks to undergo them, having been notified and informed to the reasonable extent required by medical ethics codes, is indeed consenting to the procedures. And, having clearly established legal consent, the argument that it is legally rape collapses.
I understand women don't want to have to undergo this bullshit procedure. I also understand they shouldn't have to undergo this bullshit procedure. That doesn't mean it's rape if, knowing - and being fully informed of the fact that - there is an unwanted and unnecessary procedure involved in getting an abortion, a woman agrees to undergo the procedure and has the abortion.
I'm rather confused by your statement about mandating painful penetration to get medical services. Is it rape if a woman consents to a C-section despite wishing to deliver without C-section, if the doctor believes the C-section will make for a safer delivery? I understand this is not a perfect analogy, but the point is still made, as a C-section involves not only painful penetration but also painful laceration, which means it is more damaging than this probe could ever be, and in a lot of cases it's not truly necessary at all. But your insufficiently-nuanced declarations are so framed as to make a C-section rape. I would suggest revising.
Finally, your appeal to authority is unsubstantiated at best and baseless at worst. Nothing about the NOW inherently endows them with some ability to interpret the definition of rape that I cannot also have, and you have not demonstrated to any conclusive logical extent how my understanding of the definition you supplied is wrong.