^, Especially if they come in mass. I mean, you don't send an army to talk peace.
Redhouse, what if they've a massive empire that their belt, and if you don't fight to win, they will, given time, destroy you by sheer attrition? If every battle were to take place at /your/ hope, you eventually won't have a home. Self-defense is ideal, but, sometimes, it's too risky; you don't know if the enemy is fighting to kill you, or just take everything from you... Both are equally messy, really.