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Private Messaging Abuse

#1 Post by Wusti » Thu Jan 18, 2018 10:59 pm

I was just wondering what the proper way to deal with a recent issue is.

Back in late 2017 I played a game with a particular "gentleman", who was issuing terrible press and I ditched a WT with him as a result, (swapping out France for Turkey) only to see him turn feral.

Fast forward a couple of months and this guy starts private messaging me and harassing me over it, after a gap of months, over a game founded on betrayal and stabs.

Normally I'm a big boy and don't give 2 shits about people like him, and put it down to a personal issue on his side, but if he is guilty of a pattern, I'm irresponsible not to report it.

What is community feeling on this kind of problem, and should it be reported (and if so how), or is it best left for him to rant until he slumps in exhaustion and just goes away?

Your thoughts?

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Re: Private Messaging Abuse

#2 Post by Jamiet99uk » Thu Jan 18, 2018 11:13 pm

I think it is a problem that you can't mute people in this new forum.

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#3 Post by Yoyoyozo » Thu Jan 18, 2018 11:16 pm

You can mute people. Just set them as “foe” with the friend/foe feature

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#4 Post by Durga » Thu Jan 18, 2018 11:16 pm

Publicly humiliate him by telling us who it is
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#5 Post by Wusti » Thu Jan 18, 2018 11:58 pm

I specifically refrained from doing that - it'll be interesting if he dobs himself in though - he's a Top 50 player.

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#6 Post by Durga » Fri Jan 19, 2018 2:08 am

PM me the name and I'll bully him for you

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#7 Post by Durga » Fri Jan 19, 2018 2:10 am

Oh, was it in Brainbomb Fall Classic III? Never heard of this guy

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#8 Post by datapolitical » Fri Jan 19, 2018 6:36 am

Well, now that we all know who it is...

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#9 Post by Octavious » Fri Jan 19, 2018 9:15 am

Not all diplomacy players are nice, and thank God for that as the occasional bastard enriches the game considerably. This player, from what you've said, has clearly contributed a great deal to the site in terms of providing high quality games, for which they deserve a degree of respect and gratitude.

Having said that, abusing the PM system isn't on. What I'd do, assuming he doesn't stop after you ask him to, is to contact the mods so they can have a quiet word with him. I suspect that will be the end of the matter.

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#10 Post by Deeply_Dippy » Fri Jan 19, 2018 12:31 pm

Irrespective of who it may have been, the best course of action is always to tell a Mod.

We are all emotional beings and sometimes this game can bring out the worst in all of us. In my view, though, in-game issues should remain 'on the board'.

I do wonder whether some kind of code of conduct might be an idea, setting out expected standards of behaviour, and potential penalties. It needn't be public. It could just sit behind the scenes and, when Mods receive and investigate complaints, they could invite perpetrators to confirm adherence to it or face consequences (e.g. Bans, point deductions etc.).

Just an idea.

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#11 Post by Wusti » Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:08 pm

That was the point of the post - not to publicly demean someone, but to open a discussion on expectations, community views and processes etc. I wish the Mods or Zultar would give a comment on their view to be honest.

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#12 Post by WyattS14 » Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:22 pm

I say we go on a witch hunt. I bet it was Zultar himself smh

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#13 Post by WyattS14 » Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:25 pm

In a more serious matter... I'm sure just by you posting this thread he'll stop, if not he'd have to be pretty stupid (Or just completely ignore the beautiful, shiny, new thread)

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#14 Post by Octavious » Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:37 pm

WyattS14 wrote:
Fri Jan 19, 2018 1:25 pm
In a more serious matter... I'm sure just by you posting this thread he'll stop, if not he'd have to be pretty stupid (Or just completely ignore the beautiful, shiny, new thread)
The vast majority of webDip players don't bother with the forum. The chances are he's completely unaware that this thread exists.

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#15 Post by bo_sox48 » Fri Jan 19, 2018 2:52 pm

Hey Wusti,

Harassment isn't allowed especially stemming from something that happened in a game, so send us an email at [email protected] with as much info as you can. I have a busy weekend but I will look into it when I can.

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#16 Post by Ezio » Fri Jan 19, 2018 7:09 pm

Awwww. I wanted to go on a public witch hunt.

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#17 Post by WyattS14 » Fri Jan 19, 2018 8:00 pm

How could you ignore the best part about the website..? (Community)

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#18 Post by brainbomb » Fri Jan 19, 2018 8:16 pm

Good god. Still???

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#19 Post by CAPT Brad » Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:17 am

PM me the name and I'll bully him for you

So who is this Durga asshole dude?! Bully another member of this site. Perhaps this Durga bully jerkoff dude needs to be given the krellin treatment

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#20 Post by ND » Sat Jan 20, 2018 2:51 am

Who is Drugna and what did this guy do to harass others? Harassment should not be tolerated.

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