yeah, the idea i'm imagining does make an equilateral triangle, though it it has any rotational modes then you'd get something like a sphere/circle...
the rotational modes being less stable i guess, intuitively, and i still have no idea how to do the math on that... poor me, i really don't deserve to call myself a computational physicist.
Hmm, i also know nothing about vibrational modes - like in linear molecules you can get a stretch in the molecule along the axis of the bond, that would make your equilateral triangle which expanded and contracted... no idea if that is possible, but it's a cool thought.
As for the electron, i'm pretty sure i'm right in saying that three protons don't just sit together in a nice pretty triangle without the electron, and the symmetry of the system forces the average position to be in the centre of that triangle - but as that centre point could be an anti-node of the wave equation it may not be occupied at all, thus the average in that case doesn't seem particularly important... it could also be a node, with a huge probability; but again my intuition fails and my quantum mechanics is very weak, so i've no idea how to either guess or calculate the solution.
(the case with two electrons is much more complicated and i wouldn't even be able to claim as little as i have)