Wanting revenge can be understood, but it risks infringing on the Metagaming rule. Metagaming can be allowing "things from outside a particular game to influence the way a player plays in that game"
An easily understood example of Metagaming is player A helps player B in game X in return for player B helping player A in game Y... In other words, trading favours in one game for favours in another game.
The "opposite" is a bit harder to define, and prove.. But a cautious player should imho definitely avoid linking hostility towards another player in a game to factors from outside that game.
You also should, imho, be careful when playing multiple games with the same player, or players. We had a very good alliance in one game, let's do it again. I'd suggest you make it clear that whilst a former alliance went well, you will decide to make, or not make alliances because that decision is, or is not, in the best interests as you see them for the country you have in the specific game you are in now.
I for example have an imho risible Forum squabble with a certain other player, he has muted me, but I cannot be bothered muting him. But I've made it clear I don't ever want to play in a Diplomacy game with him. If I see a new game that he has joined, then I will not join it. I expect him to behave similarly. I think it would be just too difficult for either of us to put aside our mutual dislike and not have it influence our actions. It's a bit like refusing a client because of a "conflict of interests".