Jeff, I didn't know that it was possible to rewind the game and didn't see your comment before, but I would have liked that option even better than just waiting. Waiting and rewinding. NMRs almost always substantially alter the game and though seeing people's intent and rewinding would also impact it, I would say less so than allowing it to stand. That would have been another good option.
I disagree that KB is getting more than is called for. I, for instance, stressed early on (in the game public) that it sounded as though we mostly agreed, and in fact shared the same first choice - waiting. That he differently valued the choices would have caused no hu-hu. It hasn't with those others of us who had slightly different preferences. But he then proceeded to ascribe, without any evidence, the most petty of motives to people who disagreed with him and insulted us well beyond the scope of the disagreement. No one else here has behaved in that fashion. slypups is still intending (as of the last message sent to me about the next game) to include KB if he should want to play, and I stated in my longer message above that I'd welcome him. So even given his rudeness, the people who have addressed it seem mostly to be taking, as I do, his venom to be at the elevation of a desire to win in a game above real-life problems for Hauta. I agree that such a position would be unlpeasant, but disagree that there is any evidence of it here. So I think he's mistaken and quick to anger and to be obnoxious, which isn't desirable, but I at least am trying to react with as much understanding as possible. I think it is a simple mistake.
I admit to having less and less patience for the mistake ongoing as everyone explains themselves and he throws my words, such as about kindness and respect, in my face as clumsy weapons, but you have a point to some extent that there is a pile-on, and those do tend to encourage defensive behavior.
KB, since you got an outcome that you could live with, and really the one you ultimately pushed us to, do you think you might give us the benefit of the doubt on our intentions and attempt to proceed as friends?