Marriage just means something else to me than to you, guys. Perhaps I should note that I'm not a Christian. I'll be sure any potential wife knows what it means to me before we marry.
@semck83: nothing wrong with morons, just to be clear. Also, I can quite a romantic, I just don't think marriage adds anything to the romance for me.
For me, marriage adds nothing to real love, since it's just a contract. If you love someone simply because it says so in the contract, you're doing it wrong, therefore the love doesn't change for me in marriage. You just make it official, which means nothing to me. Why should I care if the state knows I'm sharing my life with someone, for example? It's useful to avoid annoying legal stuff, especially when you get children, but love is love. If the girl wants to get married, sure, I'll consider it.
If it's up to me though, I would make your typical marriage commitment way before even considering marriage itself, unless perhaps if it's really just for administration. Or to keep a good friend on a visa in the country if he really wants to stay or whatever.
So, those 'marriage' commitments, which I would make before marriage:
Love no matter what? Easy.
Stay loyal? No problem.
Support in any way possible in times of need? Try to stop me. Hell, I even try to do that for complete strangers, so that's in a sense a commitment I make to everyone before even meeting them.
I could go on for a while, but I think you're starting to see my point: I would make most of those commitments way before marriage.
Now, literally staying together forever? That's a promise I think one can not make in his right mind. Why? Because you can get separated in a literal sense while remaining loyal to eachother. Because you can end up in a situation where the best thing to do is split up for a while because it's safer for both.
All you can do without promising to potentially purposefully waste lives is promising to try to make the best of it.
That's not me talking about marriage though, that's me talking about actual commitments. Indeed, for me, marriage is just for administration, or perhaps because the other person wants it.
Now, I would never agree to a commitment that forces someone to give up his or her deepest dreams. If those dreams end up not matching the commitment as it is now, I would never forgive myself if I kept my wife from following those dreams, so making the commitment work with those dreams or, if absolutely neccessary, ending it altogether, is the lesser of two evils to me.
I would let her do what she always wanted to do, out of love. I would miss her, I would always try to be there for her, I would never stop loving her, but I would let her do what she wants so badly, and I would live a happy life in the knowledge that she's exactly where she always dreamt of being.
I wouldn't want her to become some sort of prisoner that, while loving my company, would rather be free, to give a comparison. I would let her be free, even if that means I die alone.
Hell yeah, I'm a romantic, just in a different way. I would never put us above her if she wants to make a change, and if she wouldn't let me put myself above us, I wouldn't make the commitment to her in the first place.
She would be more important to me than us, and I think that's true love. I would want her to be happy, and know she would want the same, and I would do anything to make that happen, even never seeing her again, if that's for the best.